A gift to my daughter’s other Mother for Mother’s Day
There are many things I like about Ukrainian culture.
One thing I absolutely loved while our family lived there for four years were my children’s birthdays.
In Ukraine, guests not only bring a gift for the child on her birthday, they also bring one for her mother. We’re talking flowers, chocolate, maybe a pair of earrings.
This is genius! Can I get an AMEN, moms?
It makes total sense. The mother is the one who made all the food for the party, and cleaned up the house, sent out the invitations, found a cute outfit for the birthday girl to wear, bought presents, wrapped presents, I could go on and on.
You are the one who stayed up all night with her in the bathroom with the shower running for croup. Motherhood is difficult. You care, you help, you pray, you breathe your child.
Evangeline’s birthday is not until October (and yes, I will accept presents for each of my children’s birthdays, email me for details).
A gift to Evangeline’s other mother
Sunday is Mother’s Day and on that note, I’d like to give a gift to Evie’s Natural Mom.
So, here goes:
Your daughter is doing very well.
She’s healthy and strong. We talk all the time about finding a little gymnastics class for her. The girl has quads that could possibly take on a bodybuilder.
She’s beautiful. Her silky hair is growing down her back. It’s soft and smooth. Her eyes are like the sky. When she smiles at you, looking you in the eye, everything else around you fades away.
She’s happy. Evangeline loves to go outside. She loves to swing at the playground. And she has finally mastered the slide. She climbs and slides down all by herself, and it makes her so proud.
She’s going to school. Every morning Evie brings me her coat. She’s ready for the bus! She loves to go to school. A lot of times at drop off, she doesn’t want to get off the bus.
She also has a dog! We just got a dog a few weeks ago, and at first Evangeline wasn’t so sure about her. But now, they are starting to play together. Evie likes helping me take Scout for walks.
She’s valued. I must admit that at times our relationship has been difficult for both of us. But God has tethered my heart to this little girl. I am so thankful to be a part of her life.
So, I want to give a gift of thanks to you today. Thank you for sharing your baby with our family. I don’t know how it feels to be you, so I won’t pretend to. But I want you to know that I think about you. And I am thankful for you. And I hope this little update will bring a smile to your lips.
–Her other mother
(P.S. If you are a natural mother or an adoptee and find anything in this post offensive or just off, please email me at gillian@rcn.com. I am learning as I go as an adoptive mom, but desire to be respectful and thankful in my speech regarding adoption.)
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