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Our daughter Evangeline came to our family three years ago through international adoption from Ukraine. After our daughter Polly was born with Down syndrome in 2006, our family sensed God’s urging to bring another little one into the fold with a little something extra (a chromosome, to be exact). I will say this up front. It has been totally worth it. We love our daughter to the moon and back. But it has also been -
http://www.stockfreeimages.com/ Forgetful goldfish and the kitchen sink Okay, so today I am going to talk about goldfish and kitchen sinks. How will I tie the two together you might ask? I have no idea. When it comes to motherhood, faith, and life in general, it amazes me how easily I fluctuate between dual personalities within myself. On one side, I am a person of faith who believes that God is not only the goal of
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http://www.stockfreeimages.com/ Depressed mom = failing mom I’m going to hit a nerve today. For those of us moms who struggle with depression, one of the biggest thoughts that will run through our minds is this: I am failing as a mom. I am failing as a mom. At least, that’s one of the primary thoughts I battle in my depression. I’m sure that every mom thinks such thoughts from time to time, but for depressed
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(Join me in welcoming my friend, playwright, and all around funny guy Ben Fort today as he shares about the role laughter plays in a family affected by special needs. And be sure to check out his bio at the end, and head over to his current project to see how to get involved. Thanks Ben!) Laughter and the special needs family When I think about growing up with a brother with special needs, I
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Thank you for sharing it’s nice for new adoptive parents to get as much info as possible
What an encouragement to find your blog! Thank you for your thoughtful, honest words. We are in the process of adopting a baby with Ds and are always on the lookout for folks who have “been there”. We will add your blog to our list of resources as we continue to read, pray, and prepare as best we can for our new addition-yet-to-be.
It’s a long process of trial and error and break throughs and breakdowns. My daughter is now 27 and we still haven’t got there. Perhaps we expected too much. The rejection still hurts a lot.
Oh so true, all of it, no matter if your adopted child has an extra chromosome or not, these totally apply. And thank you for voicing them, it’s always good to hear that there are others feeling the same struggles.
We have adopted several with DS but as mostly newborns. They came with no baggage. 2 were placed with us at 9 months. Our 17 yo still has some attachment issues. Our 6yo is very medically involved. Not sure if her issues are to do with her dx’s or low function. We just keep on keeping on.
I’ve made all these same mistakes myself. It’s good to know I’m not the only one.
Thank you so much for writing about your experience. Tonight was an all-time low in our relationship. We’ve had my 4yo daughter for 2.5 years. Your experience is very similar to mine. It’s such a comfort to find someone who shares this pain. I’m eager to explore your blog. (This is the first post I’ve read.)
Knowing others are in the same boat helps us to know it isn’t just us as parents, right? Such a comfort for me. Thank you for reaching out.
Advice on how to handle when your adoptive finds her birth parents and the adoptive mother feels so left out