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Archive for July, 2013

Choosing my special child

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                        (Please welcome Jennifer Ebenhack. What a lovely post, Jennifer. Thank you so much for sharing!) Choosing my special child My adopted son, Jaden, has cerebral palsy, epilepsy, and severe developmental delays, as a result of brain damage from a traumatic birth. He and his Haitian mother nearly died after his older twin brother was born. But none of this information was shared with my husband and me  when we chose Jaden. We didn’t know…

Special needs celebrations are still celebrations …

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Special needs celebrations are still celebrations … “Mom, no! Too loud. I don’t like it!” I’m standing on the sidewalk outside our house with Polly, my seven-year-old daughter with Down syndrome. It’s the 4th of July, and our neighbors are shooting off fireworks. “Come on, Polly! It will be fun! Let’s just look. We won’t go close.” “No Mom! I don’t like it!” Polly crouches down to the ground and curls up in a ball. Her pudgy hands cover her ears. Her eyes close tight.”…

Go with the strength you have …

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Go with the strength you have … It’s happening again … That horrible feeling that comes and goes as a special needs parent. Am I failing my kids? Should I be doing more? Could someone else parent my child better? I’m starting to feel like a failure. I just don’t think I have enough strength for this parenting gig today. And then I remember I am reminded of a lesson God taught me through a friend who was willing to step into the arena of…